Last week I talked about the ways you treat your body. Today, I want to talk about the ways you talk to your body.
The sad truth is that most of us talk to our bodies in deeply cruel, insulting, and unloving ways.
We can go to those negative places so quickly too. It almost feels automatic or instinctual.
These negative judgments typically come from the cultures we grow up in. You’ve been socialized your entire life to believe that your body should look a certain way.
What’s deemed “desirable” – or even “acceptable” – by societal standards is usually incredibly narrow and specific.
Today, I want to share with you a little trick that I call the Five-To-One Rule.
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This month, I’m going to help you improve your body confidence.
Feeling comfortable and in-tune with your body is essential to having the sex life you crave. So this month you’re going to work on accepting your body, learning to reconnect with it (even when you don’t feel like it), and establishing a loving and positive relationship with the frame that carries you through life.
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When I ask the couples I work with to tell me what gets in the way of them having a better sex life, they almost always say, “We’re just so busy.”
I call BS.
Because here’s the thing: When you use the excuse “I’m too busy”, what you’re really telling your partner is, “The other things I chose to do today were more important to me than spending quality time with you.” The truth is that you are not too busy for daily connection with your partner.
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“Oh no,” she responded, a shudder passing through her body, “I could NEVER do that.”
“Why?” I asked.
This was from a session that I had with a couple a few weeks ago. They had been together for several years, and they both felt like their sex life had gotten stale and boring.
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Want to know the single-most effective sex tip I’ve ever given my clients?
It sounds unbelievably simple, but it has the power to transform your sex life in ways you never even dreamed possible.
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Feeling bored with your partner in the bedroom really sucks. It makes you worry about your compatibility, especially long-term. Can you really spend years, decades having sex like this?
You have boring sex because you think you don’t have the energy for more exciting sex, but somehow the boring sex drains your energy even more!
So what’s the solution?
You know it already.
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That very word – cheesy – is one that I hear a lot as a sex therapist. My clients always complain about sex tips being cheesy. Sometimes they’ll balk at one of my suggestions in a session. “I just can’t do it”, they’ll say, “it sounds too cheesy!”
So I started thinking to myself, “what does cheesy actually mean when it comes to sex?”
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In case you missed my posts from the last couple of weeks, May is International Masturbation Month, and I’ve put together the Maysturbation Challenge for women to celebrate!
This is the last week of the challenge! I’ve put together a special exercise that you can use to take your solo time to the next level. I won’t give too much away, but it’s all about seeing masturbation as an expression of self-love.
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Why do you masturbate?
Most women (and men, for that matter) would answer, “to have an orgasm.”
Orgasms are awesome, don’t get me wrong! But when we think of masturbation as just a way to have an orgasm, we miss out on the potential to go so much deeper.
Masturbation isn’t just about orgasm. It isn’t even just about pleasure…
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