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...and start having orgasms whenever you want them!


“I wish I never got asked the question, ‘Are you close?’ EVER AGAIN!”

As a woman who struggles with orgasm, you know that every time you agree to have sex, you find yourself back in the same anxiety-inducing situation...

“Please don’t ask,” you think to yourself. “Please don’t ask. Please don’t ask. PLEASE DON’T ASK.”

But they ask…


“Are you close?”

Your stomach is flipping so intensely it feels like it’s actually trying to fight its way out of your body. 

Your palms are sweating like they did when you were a teenager and your mom caught you sneaking in after curfew. 

Your mouth feels hot, dry, and paralyzed, like it’s incapable of forming a response.

What do you do in that moment?

You absolutely, positively, are nowhere close to orgasm.

But you don’t want your partner to know that. 

Do you fake an orgasm? Perform a couple of porn star moans and a “satisfied” sigh?

Do you tell the truth and have awkwardly honest conversation? “Well, you see, uh, the thing is, uh, funny story actually…”


It’s not like you want this to be your reality.

You know that orgasm is the key to helping you actually look forward to sex instead of secretly dreading it.

That’s why you’ve spent countless hours typing the same phrase into Google:

“How to orgasm.”

The links that Google serves up are always purple instead of the usual blue. 

Because you’ve clicked every link already. 

That anxiety in the pit of your stomach won’t go away no matter what because…


And you’re STILL not having orgasms!

If this feels all too familiar to you, then keep reading...

Because what follows could EASILY be the most pivotal moment you look back on a few weeks from now when you’re having orgasms readily and easily, feeling genuinely and authentically sexy in your own skin, and being more excited about intimacy than you ever have before...

I can relate to what you’re going through, because I’ve been there too.

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I struggled with my orgasm for over 10 years. I got asked the dreaded “Are you close?” question so. many. times. I read every article online, desperate for solutions.

But now, in a weird way, I’m actually kind of grateful for all of those awful moments of feeling like a fraud and a failure.

And even though I wish you didn’t have to feel this pain, I’m grateful that you’re going through this now too.

I know that might sound crazy, but hear me out...

These terrible moments served as a real turning point for me.

Where I finally got fed up and decided, “ENOUGH!”


And I’m guessing that you’re ready to do the same!

What’s the only difference between a woman who can have an orgasm whenever she wants one, and a woman who lies passively in bed, silently praying that her partner won’t ask the dreaded question, “Are you close?”

Pure dumb luck? No.

Winning the genetic lottery? Nope.

Following the same generic advice you always see about orgasm, which tells you to “not think about it” or “just let it happen”? Absolutely not!

The truth is:

Orgasm is a skill.

In other words…

Like any other skill, it takes time, practice, and patience to develop. 

AND a specific game plan for how to achieve it.

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Let’s be real:

You don’t need (or even want) to be having 3-hour-long Tantric sex sessions every night. 

You just want to be able to have some nice sex on a Tuesday and enjoy it! Feeling connected to your own body, present in the moment, intimate with your partner.

Your orgasm shouldn’t be this mythical thing that never happens. 

“It’s OK, you can finish” shouldn’t be the most frequent thing you say in the bedroom.

You shouldn’t have to stare at your ceiling as your partner drifts off into a post-orgasmic haze.

You deserve to experience as much pleasure - and have as many orgasms - as you CHOOSE to have!

You deserve to have sex that is FOR YOU, instead of just letting your partner have sex WITH YOU.

And you deserve to share a few minutes of giggly, mind-blown, “DAAAAAMN that was amazing” pillow talk before you and your partner both drift off.

But first...

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The 5 Beliefs You Need To Let Go Of In Order To Start Orgasming

Belief #1:

If it hasn't happened already, it never will

Let me guess:

You think you missed the orgasm boat.

It set sail without you, and there’s just no way to get back on it. 

It’s just too late for you.

What you need to know:

It is NEVER too late to learn how to orgasm!

Just like it’s never too late to learn how to play the piano, or speak Spanish, or start yoga.

And you aren’t “behind” either.

There are literally millions of women your exact age (and older!) who have never had an orgasm.

I’ve spoken with women as young as 18 who feel like it’s “too late” for them to learn how to orgasm.

It’s NOT too late. 

You’ll only miss the boat if you decide not to get on it.

Belief #2:

Some women (aka YOU) just aren't capable of orgasming

When you were reading all of those articles, you kept coming across that one sentence that always puts the hairs on the back of your neck on edge…

“Some women will never be able to orgasm, so don’t get your hopes up too high.”

You’ve even seen numbers - 10%.

10% of women will never be able to orgasm.

1 in 10.

Those are some pretty high odds. 

And you’re pretty convinced that you’re that 1 in 10.

What you need to know:

This is absolutely FALSE!

There is ZERO scientific proof that certain women are incapable of orgasm.

That damn 10% number includes women who have never even tried to have an orgasm.

I’ve never tried to speak French.

Does that mean I’m physiologically incapable of speaking French?


It just means I’ve NEVER TRIED!

Not putting in the effort is not the same thing as not being capable. 

You need to know that there is absolutely zero proof that you will not be able to orgasm. 

If you put time and effort into it, you WILL have orgasms.

Belief #3:

You're supposed to "relax" and "just let it happen"

After all, that’s the only orgasm advice you ever read online and in magazines.

“Just relax! Maybe have a glass of wine?”

“Just let it happen! Stop being a control freak.”

So you tried relaxing. 

You tried letting it happen. 

But still, no orgasm.

What you need to know:

Those articles are BS. 

And I’m sorry you’ve had to waste your time with them.

(It’s not your fault. After all, these articles have seemed like the only “resource” available to you.)

But “relaxing” and “just letting it happen” isn’t good advice for ANYTHING in life that you want to have. 

If you want a new job, would you ever think all you have to do is relax and let it happen?

If you want to buy a house, would you ever think all you have to do is relax and let it happen?

Absolutely not!

You don’t just sit around passively, waiting for those things to fall into your lap like magic.

If you want a job, you MAKE IT HAPPEN. 

You take active steps to update your resume, research companies and positions, run mock interviews with a friend, and put together an interview outfit that gives you killer confidence.

So why should orgasm be any different?

If you want an orgasm, you MAKE IT HAPPEN.

Belief #4:

It's all in your head

I get it.

When you’re in the moment, sometimes it feels like your brain is your worst enemy.

Thinking about needing to grab more tomatoes at Whole Foods, and needing to make a grooming appointment for your pup instead of the reality that you or your partner are touching your naked body in that very moment.

I know it can feel like your brain is holding onto control with a vice-like grip, refusing to let you topple over the edge into pleasure. 

It really and truly feels like orgasm is just a mental thing. 

And that what you need to do is just stop thinking about orgasm.

What you need to know:

Orgasm is just as much about the physical as it is about the mental.

You have to explore actual physical techniques to reach orgasm.

It’s the sensation of hands, mouths, toys, or skin on your body that creates an orgasm.

What’s going on in your head plays a role.

But it’s not the whole story.

Belief #5:

You shouldn't focus on orgasm

It drives me crazy.

These exact same articles that hype up how amazing orgasm is, also tell you not to focus on it or make it a goal.

They tell you that if you get too focused on orgasm, it will ensure that it won’t happen.

So you try not focusing on it. Just like you’ve tried relaxing and letting it happen. 

But it’s pretty much impossible.

How are you supposed to forget that you desperately want to experience an orgasm?

What you need to know:

Your desire to have an orgasm is a GOOD thing, not a bad one!

It’s silly to try to pretend that you don’t want an orgasm, or to force yourself to not think about orgasm in the moment.

Rather than driving yourself crazy trying to not think about the very thing you want so badly, we need to harness that goal-driven energy, and use it to your benefit!

Yes, it’s bad for you to get obsessive about a goal if you’re not willing to take any action on it.

Just like it would be bad for you to decide you want to be on the New York Times bestseller list, but then not make any effort to, you know, write a dang book.

There are so many women who have given up on the dream of orgasm. 

But you’re not one of them!

And that’s an amazing thing!

Now let’s take that energy that you have and put it to good use!

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If you’ve made it this far, you ALREADY know that having an orgasm would be a deeply fulfilling and satisfying experience.

But what most women don’t realize is that the process of discovering your orgasm can also help you:

  • Fall in love with your body, and feel wildly confident in your own skin.

  • Be focused and present in the moment, and able to soak up every bit of pleasure.

  • Feel fully confident receiving your partner’s attention. 

  • Know what you want - both inside and outside of the bedroom - and not be afraid to ask for it. 

  • Know, 100%, without a doubt, that you deserve ALL of this

YES, these outcomes are totally within reach for you!

But they DO depend on taking a step-by-step approach.

An approach that teaches you how to demolish your blockages, open yourself up to pleasure, and hone in on the technique that will work for your unique body. 

An approach that I developed and tested on myself to learn how to orgasm after 10 years of struggling.


An approach that you’ll excitedly point back to the next time your partner asks, “Are you close?”, and you’re able to tell them EXACTLY what your body needs to experience peak pleasure.

If you’re still with me, then I couldn’t be more excited to introduce you to...

Finishing School!

The proven and repeatable, step-by-step system for having an orgasm whenever you want one. No matter what your experience with orgasm has been up to this point.

This is not another one of those oh-so-disappointing articles you’ve read online.

Nope. Not even close.

Finishing School™ is a complete system, featuring easy-to-follow, step-by-step trainings, techniques, and exercises giving you a crystal clear roadmap to pleasure. 

Finishing School’s organized, step-by-step system will show you:

  • The truth about how orgasm actually works.
  • How to identify and overcome your blockages to orgasm.
  • How to develop rock solid body confidence.
  • Exactly how to masturbate to get the job done!
  • How to have powerful orgasms on your own and with your partner, from a variety of different types of stimulation.
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melissa d.

 "Wow wow wow! I was super nervous about signing up for Finishing School, but so glad I did! It's also really nice knowing that you have Vanessa on your side and with you every step of the way. She really knows how to make you feel good about yourself, and make you feel worth it."

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Meet Your Coach

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you take your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary!

You probably haven’t met a sex therapist before, right? 

So let me reassure you that I know my stuff...

I have bachelor's degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. 

I've been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more. 

Buzzfeed even called me “The Orgasm Whisperer”!

But most importantly...

I’ve struggled with my own orgasm challenges too…

... for 10 YEARS! 

Finishing School™ is personal for me, because I so deeply understand what you’re feeling right now. I dealt with so much shame, frustration, anxiety, and hopelessness. 

Spoiler alert! I eventually figured out how to have orgasms on my own and with a partner, whenever I wanted them.

And I turned my own journey into a step-by-step system to teach other women to have orgasms too!

Since then, I’ve taught thousands of women just like you to orgasm.

I am deeply honored, humbled, and awestruck by the work I get to do, and I would love for you to be the next Finishing School™ success story!

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Mimi a.

"For women who are thinking about taking Finishing School and you're not really sure, what I would say is do it! Do it. Prioritize yourself. Know that more is possible. Be courageous and embrace life fully with lots of faith. Finishing School helps you feel that way and you will be supported the whole time in your journey. No matter how long it takes, you will orgasm and you will really enjoy it.”

audrey p.

“Finishing School for me has been one of the best things I've ever done. It's proven to me that what I thought was true, which was that I was broken as a woman that I wasn't going to be able to have an orgasm because there was something fundamentally wrong, it's showing me that that's not true. And it's showing me that I can do it with a lot of support from Vanessa and her team and the other ladies who went to school. I'm single and I did this on my own, I did it for me. And that was really, really, really empowering.”

janessa b.

"I looked forward to the lesson every single week. There were some lessons that were SO transformative. You WILL get there. There is a community, a tribe of women who have not had orgasms. They have learned how, we have all learned how. ”

debbie b.

"I have had an AWESOME experience.  I feel like I am helping to eradicate the guilt and shame surrounding female masturbation and I am passing that legacy on to my daughter so that she doesn't feel guilt or shame.”

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kimberly g.

“Since starting the course with Vanessa I have become much more comfortable with my body. I have learnt to show my body love and be kind to it in the way I would be towards a partner. I have acknowledged my mental blockages and have been taught ways to deal with them healthily.

The course is very easy to follow and allows you to work at your own pace. I’m glad I took the leap and I look forward to continuing the practices I've been taught.”

melanie P.

“Signing up for Finishing School was a leap, but I am so glad I did. Just three weeks in and already I feel miles ahead of where I started. Already I feel a deeper bodily awareness and more alive to opportunities to nurture my own pleasure. I realize now that my sexual fulfillment isn’t going to happen out of nowhere; but it also isn’t an unsolvable mystery."

stephanie m.

"Learning how to orgasm is just the tip of the iceberg. Throughout the program you'll learn how to truly make yourself a priority and listen to your body. In my experience, it gave me the format and resources to explore new and unexpected ways to feel pleasure. In doing so, you gain more confidence. Vanessa does a great job at compiling countless tools to expand your mind, dig deeper and open up new channels for pleasure. Just do it, you're worth it!"

divya r.

“Vanessa’s lessons have reassured me that I’m *not* broken, that learning about myself is a process, and that I should treat myself with the same kindness I show to others.”

leah h.

“We come to this place for so many different reasons and from so many different backgrounds. Vanessa understands and allows for each of us to do this work in our own time and at our own pace, while steadfastly supporting us in her knowledge that we are all capable of reaching orgasm and finding satisfaction in our sex lives. After our very first communication, in response to my concerns, Vanessa told me 'I can promise you that your body is not broken', and it was such a relief to hear that from the expert! For some of us, this journey is not a quick one, but Vanessa will never give up on us, and she helps us have the confidence and motivation to not give up on ourselves.”

rochelle Q.

“I started Finishing School because I knew that sex could be a lot better. I've always felt like something was missing and I felt a lot of shame asking for what I wanted. Finishing School gave me permission to take as long as I need to reach an orgasm, and to be able to ask my partner to slow down and to meet me on my level. I considered myself to be educated about female anatomy, but Vanessa explained it in a way that made me feel a lot better about needing specific kinds of stimulation, that I'm not inadequate, and that my body does exactly what it was designed to do. 

I am already feeling a huge difference in the way I think and approach sex with my partner. Vanessa had me trying a bunch of new methods to reach orgasm and changing things up, and varying the methods when I'm by myself has made it a lot easier to receive pleasure from my partner. There is so much to unpack in this course, I am excited to keep going.“

Sarah s.

“This workshop was so much more than just learning how to orgasm. It forced me to think about my sexuality, explore my fears, and demand more for myself in the bedroom. Vanessa was responsive and supportive throughout the process. It was also empowering to learn how to get myself in the mood and mindset to engage with my body instead of relying on another person. Finally, even if I ever did gather the courage to shop for lube or a vibrator, I would not have known what to get, so I was so grateful that they came with the course (and they are both great!).”

jodie d.

"Finishing School was packed full of useful information, presented in a way that was friendly and comfortable. It is worth the time, effort, and money because I am worth it."

paige p.

“I HIGHLY recommend Finishing School for any woman that is struggling with her orgasm. This course has helped me initiate so many conversations with my friends and sisters about orgasms and break the taboo of not discussing it. Vanessa helped me understand my body better and feel more comfortable communicating with my partner. You will not regret this investment in yourself. There is so much knowledge and comfort in this course!!”

cher s.

"Through the exercises in Finishing School, I’ve been able to work through my negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about sex and masturbation. I’ve been able to connect with my body in a more loving, compassionate, and understanding way than ever before."

haley b.

"Before I started Finishing School I had a much different relationship with sex, with orgasm, and with my body. A lot of things have changed since joining Finishing School. I’ve been able to reach orgasm on my own very consistently and with a lot less time. I have experienced orgasm with a partner now!"

noelle d.

"After many years of approaching intimacy as a wifely duty, and nearly giving up on the possibility of ever experiencing more, I finally made the big breakthrough of orgasm with my husband thanks to Vanessa’s program, and it has opened this exciting new chapter in our marriage. I had consulted many resources before, but none of them offered the profound journey of Finishing School, where you not only get practical advice for the physical side of things, you also dismantle your baggage and blockages, repair your relationship with your body, and learn to communicate and connect more deeply with your partner. Because of that, I am healthier, more confident and calm, and having much more fun, both in and outside the bedroom. You can’t put a dollar value on this kind of personal and relationship transformation, but it is worth every penny."

sophia c.

“Within 24 hours of signing up for Finishing School, I had the best sex of my life with my boyfriend. It was like something inside of me burst open and I finally gave myself permission to be present in the bedroom.”

sarah b.

“The price tag made me nervous at first. I’d never spent that much money on myself before. But having gone through the program, having reconnected with myself and my partner, having had my first orgasms ever, having had the best sex of my entire life, I can confidently say I would pay ten times the price. It’s THAT transformative.”

claire c.

“You won’t regret the investment. You will regret giving up.”

annette R.

“I had my first orgasm days after starting Finishing School. I can’t believe I wasted years – yeaaaaars! – of my life stressing out about my lack of orgasm, only to realize how simple it was once I had the proper information and instructions. I feel so much joy and relief.”

Course Curriculum

Module 1: Welcome To Finishing School!

As soon as you sign up for Finishing School™, you’ll get instant access to this module.

You’ll immediately be initiated into the unique Finishing School™ mindsets and methods.

You’ll discover crucial techniques for setting yourself up for success so you can get the most out of your Finishing School™ journey. 


  • Get a road map for your Finishing School™ success.
  • Discover how to take care of yourself so the next few weeks are as pleasurable as possible.
  • Get a special Finishing School™ warm-up that you can use every time you’re ready for massive transformation.

Module 2: Get To Know Your Orgasm

You’ll gain immediate insight as to why you’ve struggled with orgasm for so long, and be empowered with a priceless foundation of orgasmic knowledge that will help you finally get there.


  • Learn the truth about how orgasm really works. Be prepared to have your mind blown as you learn the most common and harmful orgasm myths! This is one of the most important lessons in all of Finishing School™. You’ll learn why you seem to get stuck on the edge, why people who say “You’ll know when you have an orgasm” are wrong, and exactly what you need to have your first orgasm.
  • Discover the different types of orgasm. Vaginal? Clitoral? G-Spot? Cervical? Blended? How many are there exactly? You’ll finally get a straightforward answer. 
  • Uncover your orgasmic blockages. You’ll finally discover exactly what has been getting in your way for so long.

Module 3: Move Past Your Mental Blockages

You already know that your mind is playing a huge role in blocking your orgasm. 

You think self-conscious thoughts about your body when you’re being intimate. (“Oh no, my stomach looks so saggy in this position!”)

You get distracted by random or anxious thoughts in the moment (“Did I forget to lock the back door?”)

You’re weighed down by shame and embarrassment about anything related to sex. (“Mom always said ‘good girls’ don’t talk about sex.”)

It feels like you’ve been waging a never-ending war against your brain. And until now, you’ve felt powerless to stop it. 

That all changes this module!


  • Unpack your sexual baggage. You’ll get the powerful Mistaken Bodyguard technique for letting go of orgasm-sabotaging thoughts. (The ladies in Finishing School™ say this is one of the most transformational exercises of the entire course!)
  • Get your head in the game. Are you frustrated by how much your mind wanders during sex? Feel like your brain is constantly buzzing with thoughts? Here you’ll learn how you can stay mentally focused.

Module 4: Break Down Your Body Blockages

How can you feel pleasure in your body if you dislike - or even hate - your own body? 

You can’t.

But don’t worry… this module is packed with powerful practices to help you get comfortable in your own skin.

You know how I keep saying that orgasm is about so much more than just orgasm? This is a perfect example of what I mean. Not only are you going to figure out your orgasm, you’re finally going feel at home in your own body. 

This module alone could truly be its own course!


  • Learn to love your body exactly as it is. Yes, exactly as it is, right in this moment.
  • Discover The Touch And Talk Technique, a simple but remarkably powerful way to reconnect with your body in just a few seconds.
  • Get comfortable with your pussy. If reading the title of this lesson made you flinch, then this will be life changing for you!

Module 5: Start Masturbating

Let me guess - you feel uncomfortable with masturbation, right?

Most women do!

We’ve all been taught that masturbation is a dirty word, and it’s especially “shameful” and “gross” for women.

But all that BS ends this module. 

Even if you feel nervous or hesitant about masturbation, this module will help you bust down your masturbation blockages, convince you that it’s the right path forward, and will even get you excited to explore your own body!

And remember - one of the main reasons why you’re so hesitant to explore masturbation is because you don’t know how to do it. No one ever taught you!

Well, this module, you’re finally going to get a step-by-step, tried-and-tested method. 

You’re finally going to discover there really is nothing as empowering as bringing your own body pleasure!


  • Set the mood for yourself with powerful practices for getting yourself excited about masturbation, even if you’ve never done it before or feel nervous. 

  • Prime your body for pleasure. You’ll discover how to develop more sensitivity in your body, so that every touch feels more intense. 

  • Four different pleasure practices, each exploring one of the steps in my Four-Step masturbation system.

  • The Goldilocks Method for getting it juuuuuust right. 

  • Create a bulletproof foundation for orgasming with total confidence.

Module 6: Troubleshoot Your Technique

So many women feel embarrassed and discouraged if they don’t orgasm immediately.

You may even be hesitating to sign up for Finishing School™, because you’re scared that you won’t have instant success.

But here’s the thing…

Finishing School™ is actually set up to help you avoid all of that pressure that you’re putting on yourself!

This week, you’re specifically instructed to uncover the challenges that come up for you when you try the pleasure practices.

Yes, that’s right, you have to run into roadblocks in order to get the most out of this week!

All for the purpose of further dismantling your blockages.

There’s just no way for you to “lose” or “fail” in Finishing School™!


  • Get a special masturbation practice for this module. 

  • Discover four key tricks to supercharge your motivation, and help you keep going even when you want to give up.

  • Get five techniques for staying present and focused in the moment, including the insanely helpful Polite Brushoff technique.

  • Learn four powerful ways to create more sensation during your practice sessions, so you never feel numb or disconnected from your body ever again.

Module 7: Explore More

This is where it gets really fun! 

This week, you’ll have the space to try out tons of different techniques, and fine-tune what your body responds to best. 


  • Get a special masturbation practice just for this module. 
  • Incorporate the fourth factor of my masturbation system. This is where you’ll really put it all together.
  • Explore the nine MVTs - Most Valuable Techniques. Based on extensive research, these are the nine techniques that have been most successful at helping the women in Finishing School™ have their first orgasms! You’ll be amazed at how simple and effective the MVTs are!

Module 8: Orgasm!

It’s time to put all of the pieces together and start orgasming!

This is where all of your hard work over the last few weeks pays off! 

This module, you’ll finally understand what I meant when said making yourself orgasm would be the most incredible experience of your life. 

Your self-confidence will be through the roof, and you’ll be more proud of yourself than you’ve ever been.


  • Get a special masturbation practice just for this module. This is a brand new exercise, and it’s where you’ll learn how to have your first orgasm!
  • Get over the hump. If you feel like you’re getting stuck, you’ll learn key techniques for finally going over the edge.

Module 9: Optimize Your Orgasmic Potential

This module, you’ll transition into the second part of Finishing School™ - learning how to orgasm with a partner. 

If you currently have a partner, you’ll dive right in.

If you don’t have a partner at the moment, you’ll still dive right in! Learning all of the practices beforehand will make it much easier to put them to use the next time you have a partner. 


  • Learn how to keep your momentum going and set yourself up for success with a partner.

  • Discover the truth about how orgasm with a partner really works. You’ll learn why the prostatic utricle (yes, the prostatic utricle!) is the key to understanding female orgasm with a partner. 

  • Get specific practices to optimize your orgasmic potential with your partner. 

Module 10: Get Your Partner On Your Team

Finishing School™ isn’t just about orgasm. It’s designed to help you and your partner spice up your sex life and increase your intimacy!

So many couples - even brand new couples - feel bored in the bedroom. 

You might have a sense that sex could be so much better, but not be sure how to make it better. 

This part of Finishing School™ will give you specific tools and practices to play with in the bedroom together. Not only will you be exploring your body, you’ll also be exploring your partner’s! 

Since you’ll just be “following instructions”, all of the pressure will be off of you to come up with what to do in the moment. You can focus on relaxing and enjoying the experience with your partner.

I’ve talked to a lot of partners of Finishing School™ students, and they’ve all said the same thing…

… “I didn’t realize this would be so much FUN!”


  • Get your partner up to speed, with my best tips for talking to your partner about your progress, and about exploring the exercises in Finishing School™ with you. 

  • Don’t want to tell your partner about Finishing School™? You’ll also learn how to put the practices to use without telling your partner that you’re in the course. 

  • Discover how to receive with ease. If you have a hard time letting your partner focus on you, the Double Dose Of Deserving will help you break down your barriers and recognize that receiving is actually a gift that you give to your partner! 

  • Find out how to give Positively Pleasurable feedback. It’s an easier kind of feedback to give, and it’s way more constructive for your partner. If you usually look like a deer in headlights when your partner asks, “What do you want?”, this module is going to be life-changing for you!

Module 11: [Top Secret]

This mysterious module is the first step in having orgasms with your partner!

Module 12: Orgasm From Touch

Modules 12-14 of Finishing School™ are “Choose Your Own Adventure.” You can pick which modules you’d like to try, based on how you’d like to have orgasms. 

In Module 12, you’ll learn how to orgasm from your partner’s hands.

Even if you’ve always felt, “It just doesn’t feel the same when another person touches me as it does when I touch myself”, you’ll still learn how to get there! 

You’ll also get exercises for getting your partner off with your hands. 

Remember, this part of Finishing School™ is about the two of you creating a hotter sex life, together!


  • Treat yourselves to touch, with a really special touch practice that you can return to over and over again.  
  • Discover key techniques to help you orgasm from your partner’s hands. 
  • Help your partner orgasm from your touch. Remember when I said your partner is going to think Finishing School™ is fun?! This is a huge part of the reason why!

Module 13: Orgasm From Oral

This module, you’ll learn how to orgasm from oral sex. 

Yes, even if oral sex has always felt uncomfortable or embarrassing for you!

You’ll again get exercises for performing oral sex on your partner, so you’re spicing up your sex life together.

Everyone wants to be great in bed, and people pay tons of money to learn better sex techniques. But you’ll be getting all of these bonus techniques as part of your Finishing School™ experience!


  • Banish your discomfort around receiving oral sex. Always been self-conscious about your smell or taste? That ends this week!

  • Discover specific oral sex techniques. Even if you’ve never liked oral sex before, this week just might change your mind. 

  • Learn how to give mind-blowing oral sex. You’ll get specific practices for performing oral sex, regardless of your partner’s gender.

Module 14: Orgasm During Intercourse

Finally, you’ll wrap up Finishing School™ with orgasming during intercourse.

Yes, these are the orgasms that elude most women for so long. 

But after all of the powerful work you’ve done throughout the course of Finishing School™, this module is actually going to be a breeze!


  • Discover eleven game-changing Pleasure Boosters, to help you get the kind of stimulation you need to orgasm during intercourse.

  • Learn the eleven best sex positions for orgasm, with specific techniques and tips for each position.

  • Get the timing in your favor, with key techniques for making sure you both get to orgasm during sex.

  • Have the best sex of your life!

Jennifer t.

 “My overall experience with Finishing School was very positive. Finishing School taught me a lot about letting go of old programming, feeling confident and free to try new things, and especially figuring out how to orgasm both alone and with a partner.

I was just resigned to thinking I would go through life never experiencing sexual fulfillment, but after hearing about  Finishing School on a popular podcast, I decided to sign up. I’m so glad I did.

 I was so relieved to know that even after years of never orgasming,  it wasn’t too late to learn how and to even come to expect it regularly. My favorite part of the course was Vanessa’s friendly, non- judgmental style in her videos. She really puts you at ease, and her confidence that anyone can be successful in this program is reassuring.

 I would highly recommend this course to anyone considering taking it. It is worth the investment!”

jeska j.

 "I was nervous about signing up for Finishing School at first. I was very upset about my sex life, and so ashamed and embarrassed that I couldn't enjoy myself with my partner. In Module One, it was really helpful to think through some of the feelings and try to understand what the problem was and what I can do to change how I approach sex. It's been amazing how much I've learned to relax and enjoy myself in bed now and how I'm not even nervous or worried anymore. It's such a nice relief to know you're not alone. Finishing School has opened a lot of doors for me and it has been a fun journey."

emma p.

"My overall experience with Finishing School has been extremely positive. It made me realize my situation is actually relatively normal. Since joining Finishing School, I feel less shame, I don't feel broken, and I feel empowered to both do something about it myself, and talk to my husband about it.

My favorite part so far has been the calls. The support and advice was just amazing. If you're hesitating about signing up, stop right now and just do it! You won't regret it, and it will likely change your life for the better."

The Orgasm Vault

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You’ll get absolutely free access to the Orgasm Vault, which is chock-full of valuable orgasm-related tips, tricks, and resources beyond what’s covered in Finishing School™. 

I love talking about orgasm, and I’ve developed hundreds of techniques over the years. Finishing School™ is designed to be as efficient as possible without overwhelming you, so you’ll only be doing a few exercises per week. 

The Orgasm Vault is where I’ve put all of my additional techniques. If you have a specific situation, challenge, or question, you’ll probably find the solution in the Orgasm Vault. 

The Orgasm Vault will help you learn valuable lessons, like:

  • How to feel totally confident in your own skin. 

  • How to be better in bed, and more skillful at pleasuring your partner.

  • Where to find female-friendly porn and erotica. (Because erotica can be a huge turn-on when it’s made ethically.)

  • The best sex toys. (Don’t waste $200 on a toy that you’ll only use once! I’ve tried just about every toy on the market, and I’ll let you know which ones are the best.)

  • How to approach orgasm if you experience depression or anxiety, if you have pain during sex, or if you’ve been sexually abused. (Yes, there’s still hope.)

  • What to do if you’ve been faking your orgasm with a partner.

  • Tons of orgasm troubleshooting techniques, like what to do if you don’t feel much, if you get mentally distracted, and if you can’t figure out what you like with a partner. 

You’ll have lifetime access to the Vault, so you can keep improving your sex life long after you’ve had your first orgasms!

Think of Finishing School™ as your course syllabus, and the Orgasm Vault as your recommended reading.

Jenny p.

"Finishing School was eye-opening, emotional and rewarding!

I was on the fence about taking this course because I was unsure if it would work and it was a lot of money.

But almost immediately I was blown away at how much it helped my relationship with my boyfriend. I was not expecting this! Not only are we learning to have better sex but it brought so much more emotional intimacy and understanding to our relationship. We have a much better relationship and it is a testament to this course. I can’t thank Vanessa enough. Sometimes you don’t realize how stale your relationship has been until things have improved."

For years, I only offered private orgasm coaching. Working together one-on-one for the same duration as Finishing School™ costs almost $6,500.

I created Finishing School™ – and two different ways of accessing it – because I wanted to make learning how to orgasm more affordable and accessible.

There’s no denying that Finishing School™ is an investment.

But making this kind of commitment to yourself can be transformative.

Simply by signing up, you send yourself the powerful message that your pleasure is important.

You are important. You are worth it.

sarahann c.

"The biggest thing Finishing School has done for me thus far is reassured me that I am completely normal and beautiful regardless of the outcome that occurs during sex or masturbation. It has been a fun journey and is continuing to be a fun journey of discovering my sexuality as a human being and I feel like that is a magnificent thing. I was hesitant and scared to sign up at first because I thought it wasn't normal that I had never orgasmed. I thought there was something wrong with me. Working through these modules has made me realize and reaffirmed that I am a completely whole individual on a journey to experience bliss for myself. How fun and exciting is that!?!?!"

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Pay In Full Bonus

Get Finishing School For Partners free if you choose the single payment option. This masterclass is specifically designed to teach your current or future partner everything they need to know to be a supportive and encouraging partner in your orgasmic explorations.

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What To Expect When You Purchase

As soon as you click the “Enroll Now” button, you’ll be led through the checkout process. You can use your credit card, PayPal, Apple Pay or Google Pay.

Immediately after purchase, you’ll get a welcome email with payment confirmation and directions for accessing the Finishing School™ member site.  You’ll also get instant access to Module 1.

Your credit card statement will read "One Oh, Inc" for your privacy. (No mention of “sex” on your statement!)

Your information will be kept strictly confidential and will never be shared.

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The Pleasure-Guaranteed Guarantee!

I’m so passionate about showing you the path towards orgasm, and want to make it as easy as humanly possible for you confidently say “yes” to starting this journey.

Enter the Pleasure-Guaranteed Guarantee!

It’s a 30 day, risk-free, money-back guarantee.

If you commit yourself to the Finishing School™ system, you WILL orgasm.

I know that orgasm is a sensitive topic, and that it can be easy to give up on yourself.

But there has never been any research that shows that some women are just not capable of having an orgasm.

Thousands of women – including many self-proclaimed “hopeless cases” – have used the Finishing School™ system to learn how to orgasm.

This system works.

At the same time, I know that it can be scary to take a leap of faith like this. 

I can’t promise you that you’ll be wildly orgasmic in just 30 days. You’re too unique for me to put that kind of timeline on you!

Take 30 days to fully immerse yourself in the Finishing School™ experience.

If after trying out all of the powerful practices you don’t feel any sort of change in your relationship with your body, pleasure, orgasm, or sex life, simply email, with your completed course workbook, and we will refund you every single penny. 

Why am I so confident doing this?

  1. 1
    I KNOW that Finishing School™ works, and the proof is in my own story, and in the stories of thousands of women.
  2. 2
    With the pride, confidence, and momentum you’ll get starting the instant you sign up for Finishing School™, I’m confident that you’ll be motivated to see your journey all the way through.
  3. 3
    I don’t want you investing in a course that doesn’t feel like the right fit for you; I just don’t want you to give up on yourself. Because that’s my dream for this world; that you - and every woman out there - know you’re capable of pleasure and orgasms, and that you deserve them.

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“I used to keep quiet about my own needs during sex but now I’m confident enough to tell him where to touch me and when to pick up (or slow down) the pace. And seeing me ready and raring to go so often has definitely increased his pleasure, too. Our entire relationship feels stronger now… This course has been an incredible learning experience and has impacted my general outlook on sex more than I could’ve imagined. I’m more curious about my sexuality than I’ve ever been and I don’t think there’s anything more positive than being comfortable in your own skin… Doing something by yourself, for yourself, without any outside input is incredibly empowering.”

Questions Smart Women Ask Before Saying “YES!” To Finishing School™

The women who have the MOST success with Finishing School™ are the ones who ask the most questions.

Even the scary, daunting questions. The ones they’re afraid to ask. 

And that starts even before signing up for Finishing School™. The best students really wrangle with the decision of whether or not to sign up.

A lot of times, women will start their question by saying, “I’m sorry to be asking this…” They’re worried about annoying me. 

But personally, I LOVE questions! 

Because at the end of the day, I only want you to join Finishing School™ if you know, without a doubt, that it’s the missing link between you and wildly pleasurable orgasms. 

So without further ado, here are the most common questions women ask before saying “yes” to Finishing School™.

If you’re still on the fence, chances are at least one or two of them has been wreaking havoc on your sleep patterns. (Sorry about that!) So let’s make sure you get the answers you need!

“Shouldn’t I already know how to orgasm?”

No! This is one of the biggest misconceptions about female orgasm.

We think we should be born knowing how to orgasm, just like we’re born knowing how to sneeze.

But that’s just not true!

Orgasm is a SKILL, and like any other skill, it takes time, patience, and practice to learn.

But the good news here is that the process of discovering your orgasm can be the most insanely empowering and exciting journey you’ll ever go on, because you’ll get to know so much about yourself and your body along the way.

Seriously, there is nothing more exciting than figuring out how to make yourself orgasm!

“I’m scared I won’t be able to do this on my own. What if I need more support?”

Finishing School Live is a great fit for you precisely because you will never be on your own!

We’ll meet every other week for group coaching calls, and you can ask as many questions as you want.

You’ll get personalized support and answers from me, and plenty of love from our incredible community of women.

(Plus, the schedule of the coaching calls will help you stay motivated and accountable.)

I’m seriously there to support you EVERY step of the way!

Just take a look at some of the testimonials on this page to see how invested I am in my students’ success.

“But isn’t it true that some women will never be able to orgasm? I’m scared I’m going to invest all of this time and money, and it’s not going to happen for me...”

Oh, I’m SO glad you asked this question, because it’s such an important one.

Here’s the truth:

There is ZERO scientific proof that certain women are incapable of orgasm.

Sometimes you see articles online saying that 10% of women will never be able to orgasm.

But that number includes women who have never even tried to have an orgasm, and women who don’t even care about orgasm.

I’ve never tried to speak French.

Does that mean I’m physiologically incapable of speaking French?


It just means I’ve NEVER TRIED!

Not putting in the effort is not the same thing as not being capable.

You need to know that there is absolutely zero proof that you will not be able to orgasm.

If you put time and effort into it, you WILL be able to have orgasms.

“I’ve read articles about orgasm, and they didn’t help. How is this different?

I’ve read those articles too!

And they’re actually one of the main reasons why I even created Finishing School in the first place.

You see, when I was struggling with my own orgasm challenges, I was so frustrated that I could never find any genuinely useful advice.

It was all the same crap over and over again…

    “Just relax.”

    “Don’t think about it.”

    “Don’t be such a control freak.”

    “Just don’t make it a big deal.”

That advice never helped me figure out my orgasm dilemmas, and I know it hasn’t helped you either.

It only made me feel terrible about myself, and even more stuck.

That’s why I set out to make the first fully comprehensive, tried-and-tested, step-by-step orgasm SYSTEM.

Finishing School isn’t 800 words of fluff written by an overworked (and franky, clueless) freelancer on a deadline.

It’s an immersive experience, with accurate information, proven techniques, and a specific process.

And since I remember all too well how crappy those articles made me feel...

… Finishing School is designed to make the process of learning to orgasm feel FUN and JOYFUL!

“Are you SURE it’s not too late for me? If I haven’t learned how to orgasm by now, is there any hope I can have one?”

It’s never too late to feel pleasure in your body!

You can learn to orgasm at any age, at any point in your life.

When it comes to orgasm, age is truly nothing but a number. Women of all ages have taken Finishing School and learned how to orgasm for the very first time.

But let me allow a recent participant (in her 50's) to share her thoughts:

“You were so right in saying that it is never too late to learn about your body. It seems paradoxical, but I don't resent at all that I didn't experience such mind-blowing sensations in my younger years. I am convinced that now was the right time to learn how to orgasm and enjoy sex in a completely different way. This new sensuality has certainly revived our long relationship and put a definite spark back into it. We are both over the moon.”

Plus, I want to point out that most women feel like they’re “behind” when it comes to orgasm. I’ve had women as young as 18 tell me they were worried it was “too late”!

“Does my partner have to be involved? I don’t want my partner to even know I’m taking the course.”

Your partner doesn’t have to be involved with you learning how to orgasm on your own.

When it comes to you orgasming with a partner, here’s the honest truth: I think you will be way more successful if you work on the exercises together.

I know it takes more courage and communication up front, but it becomes more of a team exploration. Something you’re doing together, rather than something you feel like you’re having to do alone, on the sly. It builds trust, connection, and intimacy.

Plus, these exercises are designed to be a lot of fun! I’ve gotten tons of feedback from the partners of Finishing School participants, and they love getting involved with these exercises.

I know how intimidating it can feel to talk about sex openly, but I’m with you every step of the way. There are tons of specific exercises for learning to get more comfortable talking about sex in general, and lots of strategies for introducing each of the exercises to your partner.

Even if you’ve been with your partner for decades, you’ll still learn how to have these conversations for the first time.

So the bottom line is it’s up to you whether or not to get your partner involved. I’ll give you my best tips either way!

“What if I can already orgasm on my own? I just want to be able to get there with a partner.”

Congrats, that’s amazing!

Simply reach out to us at after you sign up. We’ll switch you over to a special version of Finishing School that’s specifically for women who can already orgasm on their own, and want to figure out how to get there reliably with a partner.

“I’m already so busy. How much time is this going to take?”

I hear you!

I’m type-A at heart, so I know what it’s like to feel spread so incredibly thin you can’t even imagine taking on one additional thing.

So I’ve worked hard to make Finishing School as streamlined and efficient as possible.

All of the information is presented in mini lessons lasting from 2-21 minutes (see, totally doable, right?!)

I recommend that you spend about an hour a week on Finishing School (which you can divide into multiple sessions), but it just depends on how quickly you want to get results.

You’ll also get lifetime access to the material and any future course updates. If life throws you a curveball right after you sign up, you can come back to Finishing School whenever the timing is better.

Also, it might help to remind yourself that you want to orgasm!

We’re not talking about doing your taxes or cleaning out the garage!

Once you start realizing how much fun Finishing School is, you’re going to want to find the time in your schedule.

“Can you remind me what I’m getting when I enroll today?”

Of course!

Here’s what you’ll get when you sign up for Finishing School:

  • The entire Finishing School system to guide you through, step-by-step, having powerful and reliable orgasms on your own and with your partner. ($649 value)
  • Free access to the Orgasm Vault, a library of valuable orgasm-related tips, tricks, and resources beyond what’s covered in Finishing School. Think of Finishing School as your course syllabus, and the Orgasm Vault as your recommended reading. ($500 value)
  • Free access to a continuously updated Q&A library of frequently asked questions and my responses ($200 value).
  • A risk-free, 30-day guarantee. I can’t guarantee that you’ll be wildly orgasmic in just 30 days, because we’re all unique, and that’s a lot of pressure! But if you do the work and don’t feel any change whatsoever in your relationship with your body, pleasure, or sex, or if you don’t feel confident that Finishing School is giving you all the tools you need to get there, I’ll happily refund you.
  • Lifetime access to Finishing School, so you can learn on your own schedule and keep learning for life.
  • Free access to all future program updates, so you can continue improving your relationship with your orgasm with new tips and techniques.


"Is it really risk free?"


I want you to really give Finishing School your all. I know that if you commit yourself to this process and do the work, you will experience massive change in your life.

I can’t promise you that you will be wildly orgasmic 30 days. You are just too unique for me to put that kind of timeline on you! But if 30 days go by and you don’t feel any sort of change in your relationship with your body, pleasure, orgasm, or sex life, then I will refund you every single penny. All that I ask is that you show me that you’ve done the work by sharing your completed course workbook. I know how easy it is for some women to think that they’re “hopeless cases” and to give up before fully giving themselves a chance. If you can show me that you haven’t given up on yourself, I’ll give you a full refund.

I don’t want you investing in a course that doesn’t feel like the right fit for you; I just don’t want you to give up on yourself.

Because that’s my dream for this world; that every woman out there knows she’s capable of pleasure and orgasms, and that she deserves them.


"Recently I’d been feeling disconnected from my body during sex. I could get myself off easily when alone, but when having sex with a partner the stress of reaching orgasm seemed to make my body shut down. Sex was feeling less fun and more stressful. The pressure to come led me to start faking it, which gave me a lot of shame. Thank god for Finishing School! Vanessa’s class has given me a new relationship to my body and for the first time I actually have a sensual connection to my vagina. It’s been a literal pleasure getting to know this side of myself! I no longer have to fake it and my sex-related anxiety is at an all-time low. The newfound sexual connection to my body is worth the price alone but then you throw orgasms into the mix and WOW; I’m a changed woman."

Change Your Orgasm, Change The World

When you invest in your pleasure with Finishing School™, you're not only helping yourself, you're also helping to empower other women! 

A portion of every Finishing School™ tuition goes to charitable organizations that are helping promote sexual education and end sexual violence across the globe.

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Still Undecided?

As much as I love Finishing School™, I also know that it’s not the right fit for everyone. 

So I want to support you in making the decision that feels the best for YOU.

I don’t want you to just think, “This sounds alright”, or “Maybe I should give this a try…” 

I want you to know, deep down in the depths of your soul, “This is PERFECT for me.”

So let me break it down in a super clear way.

You should just click away from this page and forget about Finishing School™ if:

#1: You’re already convinced it won’t work.

Look, everyone has fears and concerns. That’s totally normal!

But if you’re already telling yourself, “This course sounds like BS. There’s no way I’m ever going to learn how to have an orgasm”, then you’re just not going to be a great fit for Finishing School™.

I’m here to help soothe your anxieties, but I’m not going to try to drag you kicking and screaming into the course!

#2: You’re already feeling satisfied with your sex life, on your own and with a partner.

If that’s the case for you, then congrats!

You’d still learn a ton in Finishing School™ about understanding your body, getting more comfortable asking for what you want, and having more powerful and reliable orgasms, but at this stage in your orgasmic journey, it might be better to wait until I’ve built my Advanced Orgasms course :)

#3: You’re looking for a quick-fix solution.

I know that you’ve probably been wanting to orgasm for a loooong time. 

I’m a pretty impatient person, so I understand the frustration of wanting something to just happen already, dang it!

I wish it was possible to learn how to orgasm in just a few minutes. 

But the truth is that it does take time.

Now, I’ve made the process as streamlined as possible. And I believe the journey will help change your sex life in so many ways other than just having orgasms!

But if you’re already too frustrated to give it an honest shot, Finishing School™ probably isn’t the best fit for you.

On the other hand, if you can check off at least 4 of the following 7 boxes, then you are ready to have orgasms whenever you want them!

And of course…

So again, if you checked off at least 4 of the boxes above, then Finishing School™ is PERFECT for you!

Tanya M.

"I was really nervous to sign up for Finishing School. I knew, in theory, that I wasn't the only one struggling but it really felt that way when no one talks about it. I felt so embarrassed and ashamed of myself that I couldn't orgasm. It felt like a real failure. It was helpful. especially in Module One, to think through some of those feelings and understand what might be part of the solution so I could work on it. And, while still working through the exercises, I ended up telling some of my female friends that I had signed up for the class. I found that many of them also had trouble, had only orgasmed a few times in their lives, or not at all. It was such a relief yo shed some of those feelings of embarrassment among friends. Talking about it made me feel proud that I was taking steps to take better care of myself."

Real Talk...

I truly and deeply wish that every woman who reads this far would recognize that she deserves more from her sex life, and would join Finishing School™. 

But the reality is that 90% of women who find out about Finishing School™ will “think about it”, but then convince themselves that they’re fine settling with their sex life as it is.

Heck, I settled for that reality myself for 10 years. 

I know, from personal experience, that this is what the sex lives of these women will look like:

  • They’ll still struggle with those awful questions… not having an answer to “What do you want?” or “Are you close?
  • Only now, they’ll have a new least favorite question… “What if… ? What if Finishing School™ really did work… ?” 
  • They’ll keep reading those same articles online, hoping that magically one of them will have new or different information from the same things they’ve seen repeated thousands and thousands of times. 
  • Their sex drives will decrease. After all, it doesn’t make any sense for them to crave something that isn’t very pleasurable. 
  • Their resentment towards their partners will build. “Why does my partner get to have all the fun, and I get nothing?” they’ll think.
  • They’ll be right where they started by the time Finishing School™ is ending, and the latest round of graduates are having wildly pleasurable orgasms. 

But I don’t think you’re one of these women.

I think you’re ready to:

  • Fall in love with your body, and feel wildly confident in your own skin. 
  • Be focused and present in the moment, and able soak up every bit of pleasure.
  • Feel fully confident receiving your partner’s attention. 
  • Know what you want - both inside and outside of the bedroom - and not be afraid to ask for it. 
  • Know, 100%, without a doubt, that you deserve ALL of this. 

Remember that critical question we began this whole conversation with?

I think you’re ready to answer it with total confidence.

And I can’t wait to meet you inside Finishing School™!

claudia j.

"Starting this course has honestly been one of the best decisions I have taken in my entire life. I have come to realize in the past couple of years how introspection and self awareness are the key to so many things in life. And this is exactly what this course is putting you through. Without even realizing, I didn't only make progress on my journey towards orgasm, but I improved aspects in my relationship with myself, my partner, my friends and even my coworkers.

I shared with my partner everything I learned and we saw improvements in our sex life from week to week. It's amazing to see these kind of results happen in this short timeframe. 

To all the women out there who doubt investing this much in a sex therapy course, I have to say that I don't have the financial background to allow myself to easily spend this amount of money, but this has been the best investment in me and it makes me feel so empowered that I chose to do something about my orgasm. Just take a leap of faith for this one time and see where it takes you!"

katie w.

“I can’t describe how good it felt to sign up for Finishing School. It was like I was finally standing up for myself after so many years of feeling frustrated and broken and declaring, ‘I deserve pleasure!’ It has been transformative in so many ways.”

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