Help! My Partner Hates Self-Improvement!
You read all the books, listen to all the podcast episodes, and do all the meditations and affirmations. But your partner won’t even read a dang Instagram caption!
What do you do if you value self-improvement and personal development, but your partner just can’t be bothered – or even flat-out refuses?
In today’s episode, we’re giving you the tips and tools to get your partner invested in becoming the best version of themselves.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The big problem with self-improvement. (Which may be the reason why your partner is avoiding it…)
- The most common things our audience wants their partners to work on.
- How to talk to your partner about self-improvement and get them on board.
Here’s a glance at this episode:
[4:20] Expectation vs reality
[8:31] A peek at the top 3 on the self-improvement wish list
[11:10] Xander tells Vanessa what he would love for her to improve
[14:01] We admit our deep dark secret
[16:27] Vanessa tells Xander what she would love for him to work on
[18:16] Big Picture Thinking and why it can be so beneficial
[22:29] Examine your reasoning
[23:46] Why your partner is (understandably) not into it
[26:59] How to finesse your approach
[29:20] The elements of what to share to lock in success
[32:20] Slow and steady (and consistent) wins the race
[35:00] Let us be the voice of reason to your partner
[36:45] “I want them to do it on their own!”
[39:06] What to do when you don’t see eye to eye
[44:00] Listener Question #1: He says he has the right to be loved and accepted as he is.
[47:15] Listener Question #2: How to explain to your partner why it is important to you (self improvement) so they do not take it as criticism.
Links & resources
The Hygiene Episode: What to do if your partner isn’t taking care of themselves
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