9 Things You Probably Don’t Know About Sex Therapy
There’s a lot of misinformation about sex therapy. Want to know the truth? Read on!
#1 – Sex therapy is more “vanilla” than you might think
When most people hear the words “sex therapy”, they immediately think of things like kink, BDSM, roleplaying, and orgies. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with any of those things, but most of my clients want help with more basic things: stuff like how to make the time and energy for sex when you have a million other things on your plate and can barely make it to bedtime. How to move past shyness, self-consciousness, performance anxiety, and sexual perfectionism. How to feel comfortable asking for (or even knowing!) what you want, giving feedback, or trying new things.
#2 – Sex therapy is professional
A lot of people assume that because the word “sex” is mentioned, sex therapy is X-rated. But there’s no nudity, and no sexual contact in my sessions. I keep it strictly professional.
I also know my stuff! I have a degree in Human Sexuality from Brown University, and Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies, and 15 years of experience in the field.
#3 – Sex therapy is all about problem-solving
Some people get scared by the word “therapy” because they think it means they’ll be stuck talking in circles, without actually doing anything.
But my brand of sex therapy is all about coming up with concrete, specific, and actionable solutions to address your goals. We’ll talk, yes, but we’ll also make sure we give you the tools you need to create the sex life that you desire.
#4 – Sex therapy tends to be short-term
Although sexual issues may seem overwhelming, the reality is that they can typically get addressed surprisingly quickly.
Many of my clients clients get the answers and advice they need within only 1-3 sessions.
Some clients get energized and excited about the progress they’re making, and choose to explore their sex lives more in depth. But my goal is to get you to notice improvements as quickly as possible.
#5 – Sex therapy can be deeply healing
Aside from the problem-solving aspect of sex therapy, there’s also something deeply profound and healing about simply being able to talk about sexual issues with a caring and knowledgeable professional. If you’re like most people, you’ve never talked about your sex life out loud before. Being able to feel yourself being compassionately and attentively listened to, and fully accepted as you are, can be surprisingly powerful!
#6 – Sex therapy can improve other parts of your life
What shows up in the rest of your life shows up in the bedroom, and vice versa. We might end up having powerful conversations about things like work-life balance, your relationship with your body, or your self-confidence. We can end up addressing a lot of your other goals!
#7 – Sex therapy works best if you get help sooner rather than later
Sex therapy is a lot more successful – and more fun! – if you address problems as quickly as possible.
#8 – Sex therapy is something everyone should try
Even if you don’t currently have any problems with or complaints about your sex life, you can still benefit tremendously from sex therapy! It can help you learn how to take your sex life from good to phenomenal.
#9 – Sex therapy is fun!
The most common feedback I get from my clients is that they enjoyed our session much more than they thought they would. I like to think I’m pretty easy to talk to, and I enjoy helping my clients feel relaxed and comfortable. We may end up laughing together by the end of the session!
And remember: this is not about learning how to do your taxes or how to fold laundry properly. This is about learning how to have hotter, more intimate, more fulfilling, more authentic, more pleasurable sex! What could be more fun than that?